Deanna ([personal profile] dr4b) wrote2009-01-26 03:15 pm

My dad

apparently will no longer be reading my LJ entries, because he died sometime in the last day or two.

The funeral is probably this Friday; I'm trying to figure out how I'll get back to Philly.

I guess I'm taking this pretty well all things considered. I haven't cried, which is surprising my family. I guess I kind of knew when I saw him that it was very likely to be the last time I'd see him alive... I just didn't think he would go so SUDDENLY. He wasn't in the hospital or anything when he died... my uncle calls him every day and basically got no answer on any of his phones today, so drove downtown and said he just found my dad laying there in bed looking like he was asleep.

My brother called me this afternoon. We're not sure what we'll do exactly.
My uncle suggests I come to Philly this week for the funeral and we'll figure things out.

I'm thinking that I might extend my Seattle trip in late February to make up for this -- that is, I'm still going to go back to Japan on Feb 3rd, take care of some things I need to take care of there (some job interviews and other such stuff), then come back to Seattle mid-February and stay for Puzzle Hunt, then go back to Japan for the WBC and hopefully starting a job. I might work another Philly trip in February if necessary. We'll see.

This is a photo I took the last morning I was in Philly (Jan 9th... was it REALLY only two weeks ago? My gosh...) I know I have better photos of him, but it's just, this is what I saw for two months of my life while hanging out there. You can see that behind his computer table/desk, he keeps a photo of me and him, and then photos of his tumors. It was always kind of disturbing, but I guess now that I think about it, were those the most important things in his life?



He's still logged into AIM. (When my brother called, we noticed Dad had an idle time of 2 days and 10 hours, which should have been a telltale sign that something was wrong, actually.) My uncle's at the apartment and says he's afraid to turn off any computers because none of us know any of the right passwords for anything.

Anyway, I dunno. Gotta go figure out what I'm going to do.

[identity profile] bzarcher.livejournal.com 2009-01-27 02:38 am (UTC)(link)
You're probably tired of hearing people say they're sorry, so I'll just wish that things go well for you and your family for the next little while.

[identity profile] oren.livejournal.com 2009-01-27 02:39 am (UTC)(link)
My condolences too, if you need anything, let me know.

[identity profile] hillsy2k.livejournal.com 2009-01-27 02:44 am (UTC)(link)
So sorry to hear about this. It's really good you were able to spend some time with him recently.

[identity profile] ketsugami.livejournal.com 2009-01-27 02:44 am (UTC)(link)
Oh, man. You have all my sympathies.

[identity profile] ladysephiroth.livejournal.com 2009-01-27 03:17 am (UTC)(link)
*hug* I'm so sorry.

[identity profile] piratelemur.livejournal.com 2009-01-27 03:41 am (UTC)(link)
I'm sorry, D. I've been there a bit too recently to say much more. You'll do what you need to. I'm thinking about you.

[identity profile] tadzilla.livejournal.com 2009-01-27 03:53 am (UTC)(link)
So sad to hear this. *hug*

[identity profile] rkane.livejournal.com 2009-01-27 04:00 am (UTC)(link)
I'm sorry to hear about your dad. I'm glad you got to see him one last time.
cellio: (hobbes)

[personal profile] cellio 2009-01-27 04:16 am (UTC)(link)
Damn, I'm sorry.

[identity profile] darksakura.livejournal.com 2009-01-27 04:18 am (UTC)(link)
My deepest condolences to you and your family. I'll be keeping you in my thoughts.

[identity profile] radioclash22.livejournal.com 2009-01-27 05:14 am (UTC)(link)
I was shocked to log in to Facebook and see the news. As I said there it's important to remember the good times you had with him, especially this most recent visit. My thoughts are with you and your family this evening. Be well and know that you have a lot of friends wishing you well, myself included.

[identity profile] sorakirei.livejournal.com 2009-01-27 05:27 am (UTC)(link)
I am so sorry. I'm very glad you had a chance to see him.
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[identity profile] jiggery-pokery.livejournal.com 2009-01-27 05:56 am (UTC)(link)
Meg and I are really sorry to hear it; we send our condolences and warmest thoughts.

[identity profile] tame-eep.livejournal.com 2009-01-27 06:16 am (UTC)(link)
My condolences, Deanna.

[identity profile] dhpdesign.livejournal.com 2009-01-27 06:45 am (UTC)(link)
Holy crap. So sorry to hear about this. Let me know if you need anything.

[identity profile] discofish.livejournal.com 2009-01-27 06:54 am (UTC)(link)
A big hug to you, Deanna. I am sure your father appreciated the way you took time out from Japan to spend with him. You have a lot of heart. My thoughts are with you.

[identity profile] buoren.livejournal.com 2009-01-27 07:41 am (UTC)(link)
I'm sorry for your loss.


*hug*

[identity profile] msde.livejournal.com 2009-01-27 08:46 am (UTC)(link)
My condolences.

My friend passed away from leukemia a couple years back, and seeing his account online in AIM afterwards was always tough. (His family did have the info and used it for a while to let people know/reply to stuff)

[identity profile] redglasses.livejournal.com 2009-01-27 08:58 am (UTC)(link)
When my dad went, I was down the hall because the medical team wanted me out of the way. I knew something was wrong, and it was probably the end, but it just isn't as real when you're not there.

The worst isn't even coming face-to-face with it, the worst comes later, when you run into something you know your dad would love, or think of things he won't be around for - he won't be there for my hooding, he wasn't there to walk my sister down the aisle. The things that remind you most of him will be hard to do for a while, and there's isn't really anything for it but time.

[identity profile] shoebox-bird.livejournal.com 2009-01-27 09:43 am (UTC)(link)
Oh Dee, I'm so sorry to hear.

[identity profile] alibash.livejournal.com 2009-01-27 11:41 am (UTC)(link)
I'm very sorry to hear that... I know he meant a lot to you. I hope you and the rest of your family keep your relatively positive spirit.

[identity profile] digriz.livejournal.com 2009-01-27 01:34 pm (UTC)(link)
:( *hugs*

I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
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[identity profile] geekers.livejournal.com 2009-01-27 01:35 pm (UTC)(link)
*Good thoughts to you*
I'm glad you got to spend some time with him (semi-)recently.

[identity profile] mdf356.livejournal.com 2009-01-27 02:12 pm (UTC)(link)
I am sorry for your loss.

I know you and I don't know each other very well, and you probably have closer friends in town, but if you want dinner (or lunch or even breakfast) give a shout and I/we will take you out, or you can come to my place, or I can bring you something. I don't even know where you're staying this week.

[identity profile] chamois.livejournal.com 2009-01-27 02:19 pm (UTC)(link)
I can't say it any more eloquently than others have, but you'll be in my thoughts.

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