Deanna ([personal profile] dr4b) wrote2009-01-26 03:15 pm

My dad

apparently will no longer be reading my LJ entries, because he died sometime in the last day or two.

The funeral is probably this Friday; I'm trying to figure out how I'll get back to Philly.

I guess I'm taking this pretty well all things considered. I haven't cried, which is surprising my family. I guess I kind of knew when I saw him that it was very likely to be the last time I'd see him alive... I just didn't think he would go so SUDDENLY. He wasn't in the hospital or anything when he died... my uncle calls him every day and basically got no answer on any of his phones today, so drove downtown and said he just found my dad laying there in bed looking like he was asleep.

My brother called me this afternoon. We're not sure what we'll do exactly.
My uncle suggests I come to Philly this week for the funeral and we'll figure things out.

I'm thinking that I might extend my Seattle trip in late February to make up for this -- that is, I'm still going to go back to Japan on Feb 3rd, take care of some things I need to take care of there (some job interviews and other such stuff), then come back to Seattle mid-February and stay for Puzzle Hunt, then go back to Japan for the WBC and hopefully starting a job. I might work another Philly trip in February if necessary. We'll see.

This is a photo I took the last morning I was in Philly (Jan 9th... was it REALLY only two weeks ago? My gosh...) I know I have better photos of him, but it's just, this is what I saw for two months of my life while hanging out there. You can see that behind his computer table/desk, he keeps a photo of me and him, and then photos of his tumors. It was always kind of disturbing, but I guess now that I think about it, were those the most important things in his life?



He's still logged into AIM. (When my brother called, we noticed Dad had an idle time of 2 days and 10 hours, which should have been a telltale sign that something was wrong, actually.) My uncle's at the apartment and says he's afraid to turn off any computers because none of us know any of the right passwords for anything.

Anyway, I dunno. Gotta go figure out what I'm going to do.

[identity profile] tangerinpenguin.livejournal.com 2009-01-26 11:32 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm so sorry. I know you have a great deal of support here in Seattle already, but if there's anything I can do, trips to airports, whatever, let me know.

[identity profile] amergina.livejournal.com 2009-01-26 11:34 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm so sorry Deanna.

[identity profile] shoyujapan.livejournal.com 2009-01-26 11:38 pm (UTC)(link)
... I just woke up to see this as the first entry on my friends page. I'm so, so sorry... you have my condolences. :( I wish I knew what to say but I don't, really. Be strong.

[identity profile] amaena.livejournal.com 2009-01-26 11:41 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm so sorry :(

Its so good though that you did actually get back and spend so much time with him :) I am sure he really really appreciated it.

[identity profile] keevon.livejournal.com 2009-01-26 11:43 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm so sorry Deanna. I know I haven't posted in your journal much recently, but I've been keeping up. I'm glad you got to spend some time with him before he died, and I think that years from now you will really treasure those moments.

Take care.

[identity profile] ocnn.livejournal.com 2009-01-26 11:45 pm (UTC)(link)
My deepest condolences. Please let me know if there's anything I can do to help.

[identity profile] il-pleut.livejournal.com 2009-01-26 11:50 pm (UTC)(link)
i'm so sorry you lost your father. if i can help you cope in any way, i certainly will.

[identity profile] hhd.livejournal.com 2009-01-26 11:51 pm (UTC)(link)
When my dad was sick, I spent a lot of time with a similar view - but he was on the couch watching TV. I'm sad and sorry to hear the news but I'm glad you had a chance to spend time with him. *hugs*

[identity profile] ohhim.livejournal.com 2009-01-26 11:53 pm (UTC)(link)
Sorry to hear about that.

FYI - most airlines offer bereavement fares, and are generally willing to adjust tickets without any fees due to deaths in the family. Good luck with your travel plans, and it was great that you were able to be with him during his last month.

[identity profile] mh75.livejournal.com 2009-01-26 11:59 pm (UTC)(link)
aw, Dee, i'm so sorry. *hugs*

[identity profile] donutjay.livejournal.com 2009-01-27 12:03 am (UTC)(link)
Oh, Deanna, I'm so sorry. I'm sure it's hard to know how to feel right now. Take care of yourself. You're in our thoughts.
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[personal profile] ironangel 2009-01-27 12:04 am (UTC)(link)
*hugs* I am so sorry, Deanna. I'm glad you had time together over Christmas.

[identity profile] jacquez.livejournal.com 2009-01-27 12:10 am (UTC)(link)
I'm so sorry, Deanna.
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[personal profile] blk 2009-01-27 12:18 am (UTC)(link)
I'm sorry to hear it. I hope the cleanup goes smoothly.

[identity profile] georgejas.livejournal.com 2009-01-27 12:25 am (UTC)(link)
I'm glad it seems he went peacefully. Let me know if I can help in any way.

[identity profile] qqthxnvkhfuuzza.livejournal.com 2009-01-27 12:26 am (UTC)(link)
You have my condolences. Strength.

[identity profile] red-haired-girl.livejournal.com 2009-01-27 12:32 am (UTC)(link)
I feel for you. If there's anything I can do, let me know.

[identity profile] nlanza.livejournal.com 2009-01-27 12:35 am (UTC)(link)
That's awful, Deanna. I'm so sorry.

[identity profile] drakemonger.livejournal.com 2009-01-27 12:36 am (UTC)(link)
I am sorry.

My dad died Jan 14th of last year. Like you, I didn't cry at first. Don't be surprised if you don't cry for a while, and if you do start, don't be surprised and be gentle with yourself.

[identity profile] ka3ytl.livejournal.com 2009-01-27 12:40 am (UTC)(link)
*hugs* I'm so sorry about your loss.
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[personal profile] tshuma 2009-01-27 12:42 am (UTC)(link)
I'm so sorry for your loss.

[identity profile] dklegman.livejournal.com 2009-01-27 12:46 am (UTC)(link)
Sorry to hear. I hope things go as well as they can for you and your family.

[identity profile] jccw.livejournal.com 2009-01-27 12:46 am (UTC)(link)
Sorry to hear of your loss. Glad that you were able to spend a lot of time with him.

[identity profile] firearmofmutiny.livejournal.com 2009-01-27 12:46 am (UTC)(link)
Sorry for your loss. You and your family will be in my thoughts.

[identity profile] aefre.livejournal.com 2009-01-27 12:47 am (UTC)(link)
I'm really sorry. My thoughts are with you.

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