Deanna ([personal profile] dr4b) wrote2008-10-15 01:18 am

bleh

So, today was the last day where I could say to my students, "See you next week", at the end of class.

That was really weird.

I wonder how it will feel tomorrow to be like... "see you... umm... at the party? Or, never again?"

Actually tonight one of my students said he can't come to class next week or the party, he'll be in China. So he gave me a box of chocolates (I opened them later and they're EXPENSIVE chocolates!!) and his business card, and hopefully I'll see him again sometime down the line (his son is actually studying at Temple, in Philly... so if he visits over the winter...)

But it's still sad. And my student who works at the science museum in Ueno, she had to miss the last few weeks (last week was because her boss kept her at work until midnight making an exhibit about all those Japanese people who won the Nobel prize last week!!) but she said as a goodbye present she was going to give me tickets to the science museum's new exhibit on fungus 菌類のふしぎ, I learned a new word today. I wonder if I can find anyone who's able to go see it on a weekday, or interested at all (prefer weekdays because they're less crowded). Hrm.

Another student today suggested I go to Tokyo Disneyland sometime before I head back, too. I'd like to do that, but again finding anyone to go with me on weekdays might be tough.

I think I have gotten sick, btw -- I've had a headache for the last day or two and am all kinda sniffly. I just downed another pint of orange juice, hope that'll help. I HAVE to be healthy on Sunday, there is NO way I am missing the Fighters playoff game at the Seibu Dome...

OH I forgot to mention.
I went to Heiroku today for lunch, but I went during the busy time, at like 1:20. It was my first time since that incident last week with the oyaji harrassing me.
Kanno-kun was the sushi chef, and he looked at me and smiled but in a kind of embarrassed way, and I simply didn't meet his gaze. But I realized a few minutes in that I'd have to talk to him if I actually wanted to order things, so I did order stuff, and he gave me stuff, but it was definitely weird. Dunno what to think. The whole thing is TOTALLY not my fault but I still almost feel like I shouldn't go back there.

[identity profile] metroid23.livejournal.com 2008-10-14 04:57 pm (UTC)(link)
I have nothing to add other than if you haven't gone to DisneySea while you're there, you should definitely go as it is awesome :)

[identity profile] dvarin.livejournal.com 2008-10-14 05:27 pm (UTC)(link)
It just seems really weird to give your friends tickets to go see fungus.

I think you say, "farewell." :)

[identity profile] guitarcries.livejournal.com 2008-10-14 06:06 pm (UTC)(link)
Ugh, I hate situations like that. There's this really good, affordable Italian place I go to for lunch sometimes, but a couple of weeks ago I went there and had awful service. I left an 80 cent tip on an 8 dollar bill, which I suppose is not horrible, but pretty low for me. Now I feel weird going back there, mainly cos I don't want to get the same waiter. So stupid!

[identity profile] discofish.livejournal.com 2008-10-14 08:01 pm (UTC)(link)
Is there anything that would make you feel better about going back? Do you want to have a talk with your friend who works there? It seems clear that they were still feeling as awkward about the situation as you were. Would it help for you to have a plan in your mind so that if the same (or a similar) situation was to happen again, you'd know what to say to sorta force the staff to be involved? Or to get things to resolve in a way that is more comfortable for you? You've shown a lot of courage and willpower in traveling to Japan and navigating all of the different situations that have come up; you are definitely a strong person and you can definitely find a way to fight back and express yourself, if that's what you feel is the right thing to do.

One thing that you mentioned when you described the incident was that there is a lot going on culturally in that exchange... both in the Japanese tendency toward xenophobia/isolationism and in that no one was willing to stick their neck out to resolve the situation. You might decide that there's nothing that you could have done or do now to make yourself feel better or prevent the situation from happening again, and that it just goes in the "cultural differences that suck" column. You don't have to go back to that restaurant if you feel uncomfortable there now.

Sorry if this was a bit rambly :-D

[identity profile] the2belo.livejournal.com 2008-10-14 11:59 pm (UTC)(link)
If it were me, I probably wouldn't go back. One bad incident usually ruins it for me, and besides -- they should have just thrown the guy out.

[identity profile] shiguma.livejournal.com 2008-10-15 03:49 pm (UTC)(link)
But, it's so much easier to sweep the problem under the rug and pretend it doesn't exist!

[identity profile] samara-air.livejournal.com 2008-10-16 04:16 am (UTC)(link)
Good for you for going back, D! Good sushi? Good price? Fuck it. Don't let some random douche bag ruin a good spot.