dr4b | Death of a Sailsman

One of the guys in the UK contingent of my flag in Puzzle Pirates died this morning in a motorcycle accident. Despite that I didn't get to talk to him that often due to the UK timezone difference, he was one of the first people I met in the game waaaaay back in the beta-testing days, over two and a half years ago, and has always been a pretty funny guy to hang out with in-game.

It's really weird and numbing to think about. I mean, I never met him in person, etc, but I know he leaves behind a wife and some number of kids (being as his wife is also an active member of our flag in-game), and it's just strange to think that I'll never see him log in again because he's dead.

I dunno. I wonder if there's something we can all do for his wife... Looterati is weird that way because it's like, we are a pretty close group of friends, but many of us have never met and very few live in the same geographical region, so what do you do in a situation like this? Bleh. Unlike in-game weddings, which are sort of silly, I think in-game funerals would be just plain bad.

(edit: Yeah, so it's Barnie from the FJTR, for those who play PP. As Jacq pointed out, kmf put it in her LJ publically so I guess it's ok to mention.)

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Oh no! (Who're we talking about? Man, I need to get back into things again. I miss it a bit. Just have had so much difficulty getting things to run on my ibook/wireless, that's relaly been the hangup).

I don't know how public she wants stuff to be about this yet. Do you still have a flag forum account?

Ok, as Jacq pointed out, kmf put it in her own journal publically. It was kmf's husband Barnie, former captain of the Far Too Jolly Rogers. Dunno if you'd remember him or not.

My condolences.

In-game funerals are probably not a good idea. I read about one in WoW where the guys friends gathered to pay their respects and then some guilds from the opposing side crashed in and slaughtered everybody.

Also, that title makes me want to laugh, but I feel like I shouldn't.

When I was a Senior Guide in Everquest, there was a popular person from a large guild who passed away in real life. We put on our black armor and headed down to the Arena (a large, monster-free area) and gave what I thought was a lovely service.

Unfortunately, an event like that attracts griefers like flies to poo. Even with us /summon'ing out everyone who caused problems it was a huge pain, and kind of hurt my faith in humanity.

That's because the bright people in WoW decided to organize the wake on a PvP server, in a fairly active PvP zone, at a lake just off of a major road, and didn't have anyone watching. There are smarter ways to organize a way to pay respects.

We lost a guildie last November. I think we ended up not holding anything in-game, and mostly talked about it on various forums where he was known.

A member of my FFXI Static party (6 players) had a heart attack back in March. Fortunately he survived and is doing very well. I felt so weird because I didn't know his real name or anything that I normally would for an offline friend. I worried about him none the less.

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One person is leaping to mind, and I hope to God it's not him.

You should make an account; it's in a private section, but I bet someone could get your permissions in.

I'm not sure we may be thinking of the same person, but out of the two couples it would most likely be... yes, it's one of them. Sad that it's anyone, of course.

I was thinking that we could order something from Tesco (yes, the place she was complaining so much about) and have them deliver. Flowers=teh ick. The only thing I worry about is whether someone will be home, but a) I imagine they would unless she's packed up and gone to be with family and b) we could order mostly nonperishables like fruit, maybe a book or two for the kids, some chocolate...

I'm hoping that there will be a memorial fund established somewhere, or a scholarship fund for the boys that we could pool collections to. My heart just aches for everyone left behind.

Looterati is family, far as I'm concerned, and I don't care how stupid it may sound. I've spent as many hours with these virtual mates as I've spent with my own kin, and we've bickered and made fun of each other in just the same way as any of my real-life groups of friends.

For all that they've contributed to my amusement over the past few years, I feel it's my duty to try to reciprocate.

I only wish there was something more I could do.

doh. That sucks. i'm sorry.
i'm sure anything you do - from a simple card to a fund for the kids will be appreciate. It helps to know that people care.

She's posted it publicly in her own livejournal, so I guess it's okay to say?

Barnie and I had our differences, and he used to drive me nuts, quite regularily. But for all that, he made me crack up laughing just as often.

I actually spent about an hour this afternoon on a boat with Geebus, Silvertooth, and Lethe. It was somewhat wake-like, and I think it helped us all work through some of the shock. That's about as close to an in-game funeral as I think I'd be comfortable with.

At Geebus's urging, I went and found the archived Jorvik blockade interviews (http://switchpod.com/users/thespianypp/wordpress/). And it was just so strange and awful to sit hear listening to his voice and know that the person behind that voice is gone.

I'm glad he was taped, though. In the interview, his nerve and wit really shone, and it's preserved.

for your loss.. It sounds like he was a really cool guy. There is that little element of weirdness for a person you never met in real life, as they say, but knew strongly as if they were your neighbor down the block. Send love, send a card.. good wishes and condolences. :)

-E

http://www.ywbb.org/index.shtml

Young Widows board...

I Im'ed evil late last night..

Wow. Thank you for this link. Just what I need at the moment :)

:-(

I share the grief.

Death of a Sailsman

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