dr4b | I met a meta journal

Heh. I was removed from a friend's friends list, and saw that they had a post basically saying "I'm culling my friends list, if you want to stay on, please respond". So I was going to reply to say "Hey, that's cool if you're uncomfortable keeping me on your list - I know my posts are probly boring to you, but I liked reading about you, even if I didn't comment much". Except that... well, they've made it so people not on their friends list can't post to their journal. Oops.

So if anyone wants to tell

fiannaharpar that I would have posted that to her journal, feel free :)

Bleh, I suck. I try really hard to keep this as a journal for myself primarily, so I write a lot. I want to be able to go back and remember big chunks of my life from reading my entries. That's important to me. But, I'm not sure how to do it in a way that doesn't alienate other people... since I like being able to read other people's journals, especially the friends-only ones. And lj-cutting all of them doesn't *really* seem like a solution to me, because a) then I have trouble rereading my own journal 'cause I have to keep clicking on all the links, and b) about half the time I don't bother to read through major LJ-cuts unless they're tagged well.

Oh well. I'll ponder it on the bus to work (yes, I'm running late).

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As a person who spent three years reading graffiti, I say you should compose your journal in a manner that best suits you. If you want someone to list you as a friend, but they don't want to sift through all of your entries, then isn't that what the friends/filter.bml script is for? (I dunno 'cause I ain't used it.)

Uh, sorry chica.
I was culling and got click happy, I hadn't realised that I nuked you.
Fixing now :-)

It's okay... I would be fine with being culled to be honest, I realize my posts are probably totally boring to you -- but I'm excited for you and Ray and was looking forward to reading about events in your life in the next few months, for obvious reasons :)

Not all of them. It actually relieves me to know that you're really doing okay out in Seattle. It's hard to make it in a new city and can hard to make new friends, etc. It also sounds like you latched onto a job that you like and coworkers that seem to be liking you.

My problem is that i'm not sleeping a lot and paying attention is just not happening the way that it should.

*hugs*

I think that if people get so petty that they think you're alienating them because they don't get to read a couple of your journal entries, then they aren't much friends at all. This sorta relates to your earlier post that I replied to; they go hand in hand.

nonono... that's not what I meant at all --

what I meant is that, I know some people take me off their friends list not because they don't want me to have access to their journals... they take me off because my posts are boring to them, because I talk about Bemani/etc way too much and write really long entries. I don't know a good solution for that except to not worry about it.

the LJ idea of "friend" is a little different than the real life definition of it... it means someone who has access to your restricted entries, as well as someone you read regularly.

nobody has ever gotten mad at me for not having access, because I pretty much will add just about anyone to my friends list as long as they're not psycho or retarded. I make entries friends-only when I want to know who's able to read it (ie, if I whine about work I don't want my coworkers to see it, etc).

aha, I have misunderstood you. I enjoy reading what you write...if it's a subject I know about (for instance, I know jack about Harry Potter), but that doesn't mean I'll 86 you off my friends list because of it. So yeah, the perfect solution is not to worry about it. :D

lj-cut is definitely everyone's friend. :-)

I know just what you mean about trying to sort through large volumes of text, mostly behind lj-cuts, for one specific fact. I suspect that the other half of the most efficient technique is to download your own journal frequently and make local searches using that, but that's just a guess.

I enjoy your journal very much - I like reading about all the cool ways you have of having fun, I like reading about what you're thinking. (Even when it's not so happy, though obviously we all prefer reading happy!Deanna to unhappy!Deanna.) I do like the pictures, both human and duck, too. :-) Keep going the way you want to keep going and I bet I'll continue to enjoyu it in the future!

I read when I can :). LJ's are a good way of catching up with some people if you don't get a chance to talk to them much.

I enjoy reading your journal. Granted, I often skim past the game-specific stuff because I don't have the context, but there is non-DDR(etc) stuff there too, you know. :-)

I admit I often skim past the extra-long DDR-rich posts (though at least I get it- it's been waaaay too long since I've visited my local Pump It Up machine), but it's nice to see other stuff that's going on with you. Things like if you're coming to visit, or you met up with other CMU folk out there, or other things. Of course, you're still my favorite little :-), so that may also have something to do with it.

To be honest, I kinda skim your entries and depending on how much time I have, what sort of mood I'm in and what you've written I'll read it in depth (or at least parts of it)

There are times that I wish you would lj-cut it, but it's okay that you don't.

I keep you on my friends list because a) I do like to read your journal b) I like having you able to read the posts that I make friends only. Like you, often they are friends only just so I have some controll over who sees them.

That's asking to create the perfect balance in LJ creativity that satisfies everyone. That's unrealistically unachievable. You write what you are, what you think, what you do. As much you'd want to worry about it, this isn't a popularity contest. You have a large, long list of friends on here and IRL (sort of). It might not appease to everyone's tastes when people are skimming through their friend's list. If one drops off, don't truly fret about it. It's kind of like worrying about hair. If a few strands fall off, there is nothing to worry about. You only need to worry when giant clumps start disappearing, which I doubt will happen to you since you seem to get along with everyone.

If changing yourself to something you truly aren't to make yourself stand out and be accepted by a lot more people, that's your own prerogative. For now, you're just as cool as the way you are now.

"That's unrealistically unachievable"

Don't you mean realistically unachievable? :D

I ENGLISH KNOW YES! :D

You could always try to do what

aquatwo does, which is set up groups for each subject that you post about, and then put people into the groups they'd like to read. For example, he's got work, ddr, gaming, daughter, and seattle groups (as well as lots more that I don't remember offhand). You might be well set with just "ddr" and "other" groups, and that way people could choose/ask to see the ddr stuff if they want to. Just an idea which might help you with the balance you're looking for.

I have a number of friends who write long entries.
My usual solution is to read the first sentence or
so out of every paragraph to figure out if I am
interested. If not, I go on.

But it is great hearing how you are doing in Seattle :)

I believe the above really summed it up. I do find reading your posts about which games you like very interesting. Lately I've been trying to figure out how to be better at gauging what various people might like to play, and having more samples of people's likes helps me understand how to deal with people who aren't me.

And you obviously lead such a busy lifestyle that it's hard to condense stuff. Some other people happen to lead a very boring (yet satisfied) existence. (chuckle) (wink)

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